As many of our know, the majority of the guys that I meet are online. It's just a sad fact of my life. Sure, I would love to meet guys in real life, the natural way, but it just doesn't seem to be the way the world is headed. So it is what it is.
Meeting people online is tricky. It is very much based off of looks. I try to be open minded... I ask myself... could I be attracted to this guy if he has a great personality? Ha ha... It's just hard.
Well, I started talk to this guy... Mr. Reason Why Women are Insecure. He is in his mid 30's. He is very fit... and short, which seems to be the case with a lot of really fit guys. I found him to be somewhat attractive, enough that I would go out with him and see what he was all about.
We exchanged numbers to take it off of the site and he said he wanted to take me out or do something together. I told him I enjoyed being outdoors, so we talked about going on a hike after work one day. He was asking me what day would work best. This is the text conversation that followed that made my blood boil.
* I'm going to shorten Mr. Reason Why Women are Insecure to Mr. RWWAI*
Mr. RWWAI - "When are you free to meet up and tell me all about it?"
* I had just gotten back from Puerto Rico*
Me - "Next week sometime?"
Mr. RWWAI - "That's a pretty broad time frame. Shall we narrow is down? How about Monday night?"
Me - "Depends what time. I meet with my personal trainer at 6:30"
Mr. RWWAI - "Personal trainer... are you trying to drop weight?"
Me - " Drop weight & Inches and get toned"
Mr. RWWAI - "What weight are you trying to get down to?"
*Did he really just ask me that? He has some nerve. Honestly, why does it matter?*
Me - "My goal weight"
Mr. RWWAI - "Which is what number?"
Me - "Yeah, my reply was on purpose"
Mr. RWWAI - "Are you a bit self conscious about your body?"
*At this point I'm mad and no longer want to go out with him. Is he that shallow? I felt like no matter how I answered, he was going to take it the wrong way. Plus a number on the scale doesn't mean everything. It doesn't take into consideration how tall you are and your body structure and body fat %... but I am not going to argue about this. Plus not only fat people go to personal trainers. A lot of the girls I train with are not overweight but just wanting to get into better shape*
Me - " Just always trying to improve and be healthier. I'm not as motivated on my own, so the personal trainer has been great to push me way more than I would push myself"
After that there was no response and I didn't hear from him for almost a week. All of the sudden he text me and asked me if we were still going out. HA! NO!!! I told him after our last conversation and then not hearing from him for a long time, I came to the conclusion that it wasn't happening. He said oh sorry, I was in yellowstone. What, so you couldn't finish out the conversation? I had no interest in going out with him at this point so I stopped responding to him after that text.
This guy... he is the reason why girls ARE self conscious and insecure. I get people have different types, but just move on then, you don't have to have a conversation with a girl you have never met about her weight and if she is insecure about her body. No thank you.