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Saturday, May 26, 2012

Mr. Still Wants to be BFF

Me and Mr. Still wants to be BFF were seeing each other for a little over 3 months. It was nothing serious... but we spent most of our free time together, talked almost everyday and were kissing/cuddling/holding hands and what not. You can call the relationship what you want, I think most people's definition would be that we were dating. He was even in with the family. My niece told me I should marry him because he would make a great uncle. My family and friends all loved him. It got to a frustrating point where I knew it was not going anywhere. It died off. It ended well though. We talked everything out, I got to say everything that I wanted to say to him and we both left it wanting to be better people, let the other know how much we cared for them and that our time together was well spent and good feelings will always be there. It ended a lot better than these types of relationships tend to do.

After ending talk... we still kept in touch here and there with text messages or phone calls. Mostly he would call or text me to see how I was doing. He was dating someone knew, so I knew that wouldn't last long and I wouldn't expect it to. It was nice that he made the effort to show he still cared for as long as he did. He had a couple of my books so I let him know I wanted them back and he called me to drop them off, I wasn't home but he left them with my roommates and that was that. I figured I wouldn't here from him after that. Oh how I was wrong... the next day I get a phone call from him. When his ringtone started playing on my phone I was in shock of why he could possibly be calling me. I pick up.

Me: "Hey..."
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: "Hey, how are you?"
Me: "Pretty good. How are you?"
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: *sigh* "Umm... I'm okay."
Me: "Umm... just okay?"
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: "Yeah, What are you doing?"
Me: "I'm just at home."
Me: "Umm... are you sure you are ok? Do you want to talk about it?"
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: "Umm... yeah. Are you home a lone?"
Me: "Uh, yeah, I am. (wondering why that matters) I'm just about to get in the shower though. Can you wait like a half hour and then come over?"
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: "I really don't want to be home right now."
Me. "Uh... okay. Well, I guess I can just leave the backdoor unlocked and you can hang out while I am in the shower...."
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: "Okay, I'm coming over."

I hop in the shower. Honestly... I take my time. We are done and he started dating someone else, I feel no obligation to him, I'm just trying to be nice since he called me. I mean... I care, but I wouldn't drop everything like I would if we were dating. When I get out of the shower, I am just in my towel... I head to my room to change and he is there, laying on my bed. I then ask him if he can leave so I can change and he acted all put out by it. He waited in the other room while I changed. After I was ready, I walked in the other room to see him laying face down on the couch and I sit next to the couch next to him.

Me: "Ok, what's up?"
Mr. Still wants to be BFF: "It is so dark in here. Can we shut the blinds?"
*I'm thinking... I am in the basement and it is an overcast day, not sure what your problem is* He moved back to my room and lays down on my bed and closes the curtains for the most possible darkness.
Me: *Thinking is is so weird to see him all depressed because I had NEVER seen him this way* "Okay, if this is dark enough, let's talk"
Mr. Still wants to be BFF: "I don't really feel like talking about it yet."
Me: "Umm... I thought that is why you came over here? Okay, do you want to go on a walk?"
Mr. Still wants to be BFF: "No."
Me: "Want to go to this ward breakfast party?"
Mr. Still wants to be BFF: "Ugh... no. If you are going to go to that, I'm just going to go home".
*Wow.... wow. What do you want from me?*
Me: "Okay, want to watch a movie?"
Mr. Still wants to be BFF: "I guess we can talk about it now..."

He tells me all of his relationship drama and how they want to get married but have all these issues. I tried to give the best advice that I could and then thankfully his girlfriend text him that she was ready to see him again if he wanted to come over and he perked up and ran to see her. Thank goodness, because I thought I was going to be stuck with depressed Mr. Still Wants to be BFF all day. Seriously.

I thought that would be a one time thing. Maybe a couple weeks later I get a call from him at almost midnight. I answer and he asks me how I am doing and that it had been a while since he had talked to me. I told him it had only been a couple of weeks. Let's be honest, we all know that is not why he was calling me. I was right... he started talking to me about relationship problems again... which followed with "We agreed that we are not supposed to talk to other people about our problems", which I then said, "I respect that, so maybe you shouldn't". There was a pause and then he continued to tell me about his problems.  He also told me I was the only girl he still keeps in touch with and talks to. He cut every other girl off (except family and his girlfriend of course). That was probably supposed to make me feel special (which in a way I guess it is flattering that he still cares about my opinion) but I mostly was thinking... why? Why have you chosen to cling on to the last girl you dated for comfort and advice. The girlfriend probably wouldn't be thrilled if she knew. I continued to give the best advice I could and then after our hour or so phone call, we hung up.

After this phone call, I wondered if I was going to be their couple therapist and this was going to be become a regular thing. About a week later, I got another late night phone call from him. I had just gotten in bed and almost didn't pick up because I figured it was going to be another long girlfriend problem phone call. Boy was I wrong. I pick up the phone and he starts asking me about my eyelashes because his girlfriend was thinking about getting eyelash extensions and he told her he had a friend (me) that had them and how beautiful they were. To my surprise he quickly puts me on speaker phone to talk to his girlfriend. As soon as he does my picture lights up on his phone and she tells me how pretty I am. I am starting to feel awkward fast. I don't know where this phone call is going, but I try and play it cool. Then Mr. Still wants to be BFF tell me that they are right next to my house so they are just going to come over so she can look at my lashes in person.

Ummm..... okay? Do I have a choice? Ha ha... How do you prepare yourself for this type of situation? They are soon at my back door. I let them in and we introduce ourselves to each other. Mr. Still Wants to be BFF then puts his hands on both of our shoulders and says "I am so glad that you two are finally meeting. You are two of the sweetest and nicest people that I know". We both felt awkward and just smiled and said... aww...  and then we continued to talk about eyelashes.

Girlfriend: "Sorry we stopped by so late, I hope we didn't catch you right as you were going to bed"
*Which they totally did, but I decided to be polite*
Me: "Oh, it's okay... I'm a night owl."
Girlfriend: "Oh, so is he... he is always staying up so late"
*Boy do I ever know that! He would hardly ever leave my house before 3am when we were dating"
Me: "I know..."
Mr. Still Wants to be BFF: *Trying to cover his tracks so his girlfriend doesn't catch on to anything* "Yeah, I would be up late and would text Tracy and ask her if she was up and if she was I would get her to go to Betos with me. ha ha ha"
Me: "Yeah... that happened... sometimes..."
*I get what he is doing and decide to play along... she obviously has no idea what our relationship was... and that we made out a little over 2 months ago*
Girlfriend: " Ha ha... oh yeah, sounds about right"

Everyone awkwardly laughs. Thankfully, soon after that they left and I went to bed. I thought to myself... wow, he is so lucky that I have no feelings left for him, because who brings their current girlfriend to an ex girlfriends house who he pretends nothing happened with so that new girlfriend can check out her eyelashes? Weird. Surprising? No. Weird is the story of my life.


jamie hixon said...

Not cool, man. Not cool. But funny...ish.

jamie hixon said...

PS that picture makes me sad. I was always the "third wheel" growing up until I got married. Sigh.

flux biota. said...

Where do these people come from? He sounds HORRIBLE!

Next time...kick him in the ear j/k