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Saturday, June 14, 2014

Mr. Married Man

I haven't had a guy story in a little while.... so here we go. This happened the other day. This isn't about a dating experience, but not all of my stories are.

I would like to start out by saying that Mr. Married man is a super nice guy that I work with. He is in a different department but we typically run into each other at the gym. He is Polynesian and in his early 40's maybe... married with kids, nicest guy. While I was in the process of losing weight, he would notice and always tell me I looked good... in a friendly way... not hitting on me kind of way. I always appreciated the encouragement. Every time he sees me, he still tells me I look good.

I ran into him the other day in the break room. I was warming up a diet brownie. He asked me what I was cooking, so I told him. He told me I was doing so good and that he should be better... had me feel his arm muscles and told me they used to be bigger. (I don't know what it is about friendly guys at my work gym that want to show off their muscles to me). He then told me that I was getting too skinny. Right away I laughed because I know for a fact that isn't true. I told him I still had plenty to lose, but thanks for saying that.

We started to walk down the hall together and back to our offices. I asks me if he can tell me a personal observation. Not knowing what he could possibly mean, I say sure. I figured he would say something to me about dating... because he sometimes would make comments on my dating life. As soon as we are away from anyone that could hear, he started to whisper.

Mr. Married Man - "Are you sure you are losing weight in the right places"

*Feeling a little off guard and not completely positive about what he is referring to*

Me - "Uh, what do you mean?"

Mr. Married Man - Pointing to my boobs "You know... you can't lose weight there"

Me - "Uh.. oh... ummm.... no...."

Mr. Married Man - "I just remember they used to be more... out there"

*I'm trying to play it cool and not act like I am feeling completely awkward and lost for words"

Me - "I don't know... maybe it's the bra I'm wearing or the clothes I'm wearing. I lost over 50 lbs but I have not dropped a cup size"

Mr. Married Man then get's a smile on his face and holds out his fist to give me a fist bump

Mr. Married Man - "Good girl. You are blessed. Don't lose them."

I awkwardly smile and let out a pity laugh and he tells me to have a good day.

This was not a conversation I ever expected to have with this guy. I mean...  I'm not sure what he was thinking but you can get in MAJOR trouble for talking to people like that at work. Not only that, but what good is that conversation going to do for me? I mean, first of all... nobody can choose where weight comes off when they are losing weight. I have never been one to care about my boobs quite honestly... they have never concerned me, but what if I were? I think a comment like that would make me really insecure. Also... I didn't lose weight there, but what if I had? What good does it do to tell me that and tell me I can't do that? Oh yeah... I'm sorry... I'll make sure to keep losing weight, but put some weight on there... you know, to keep the men checking me out pleased.

Everything about it was weird and unnecessary. It took me the rest of the day to process what happened. Now I have to pretend like it didn't happen so that when I run into him I don't feel like he is just checking out my body and feel awkward around him.


Lynette Mills said...

You should call him Mr. Inapropriate! That is really not cool!

Jessica Stark said...

Wow! If my husband ever talked to another woman like that... And who says that?!?

Robert Hughes said...

Very inappropriate that's not cool. Rather than pretending it didn't happen.. I would highly suggest making it a point to tell Mr. Married Man that his comments about your body parts are inappropriate. I'm sure you appreciate encouragement but that crosses the line big time... Seriously something needs to be said.

Logan said...

Not okay.

jamie hixon said...

You know, I'm a total push-over. I totally wouldn't know what to do in that situation, especially if he had been friendly in a nice way in the past. He probably wasn't trying to be super inappropriate... maybe he talks to his sisters like that? But he was. Inappropriate.